Will A Pisces Girl Come Back?
Posted by The Pisces Girl on Monday Dec 19, 2011 in To Be A PiscesOne of the more popular inquires related to the pisces girl is: “Will my pisces girl ever come back?” If you’ve made it here, I’m assuming you’ve sat front row during one of her magic acts. You know, the one where she pulls a rabbit out of her hat and mysteriously disappears? Yeah, she’s taken years to perfect that disappearing act of hers and I don’t mean to boast, but she is THE MASTER of it.
You see, the other sensitive water signs have an exterior means of protection: The crabby cancers have their shells and pinchers, the stingy scorpios have their venom-filled tails, but the fishies have got nothing. Nothing, that is, but their ability to swim and swim fast. Please understand, once she’s been baited and hooked, she’s screwed. So she better make sure she takes the right bait. Or if she doesn’t, then she’s gotta be clever enough to wiggle off the hook and disappear back into the ocean. No doubt life has taught her these tough lessons and she is anything but a poor student.
What all this means to you is that when she doesn’t feel like she is in safe company, she swims away. Coming from the highest, most surface level perspective, her reason for swimming away is as simple as that. Of course, it’s up to you to understand the entire depth of her reasoning. Each situation is unique to the individuals involved.
So you want to know if she’ll ever come back…and I really hate the be the bearer of bad news, but in 90% of circumstances, the answer is no, she won’t. For all of her indecisiveness, once she’s made the decision to leave, she usually sticks to it with stubborn resolve. After all, life is too short to waste on old experiences when newer ones are always waiting just around the corner.
For the remaining 10 percenters, there is a glimmer of hope, as there will always be exceptions to the rule. Here are a few situations in which she just might do an about-face and swim right back to you:
1. Genuine Love Exists
Yes, even when she is genuinely in love, she may still swim away. Maybe she wasn’t feeling loved back, maybe she got scared, maybe she lost faith that love was enough to keep it together. Whatever her reason, she left. But when real love is involved, it will always be difficult for her to stay away for good. When it’s real, her heart will always want to gravitate back to her beloved, possibly time and time again. She can’t help it, love is usually her happy place and it takes a lot to make her abandon it.
Of course, love has to be a two-way street. If her loved one doesn’t care to show her that he loves her back, it will be painful for her to leave, but she’ll stay away. But, if he shows her that he loves her just as much as she loves him, she can and will come back…and bestow that love stronger than ever. It just depends on the two persons involved, it just depends if mutual love is being exchanged.
2. The Sex Is Good
I’m a little embarrassed to admit this, but good sex is a weakness for the pisces girl. She associates sex with so much more than sex. She associates it with a connection of the most complete kind: physical, spiritual, mental and a soul union. Because of what this represents for her, she typically assumes that amazing sex equates to amazing compatibility. Realistically, we all know this isn’t the truth, but try telling the pisces girl that…She usually has to learn the hard way. Mainly by leaving and being reeled back over and over with the lure of passionate romance.
On a personal note, I once stayed in a relationship looooong past its expiration date for this very reason. It was not healthy and definitely not my proudest moment. But I did learn something from it, I learned how someone could use my strong desire for passion against me-as a means of manipulation. I learned that I’ll never let someone toy with me like that again. It was an important lesson to learn.
So why am I telling a whole bunch of strangers this? Well, for one, I’m letting the departed in on a little secret. If the sex was good between you two and you want her back, you can always try to appeal to her passionate side. But it would be in everyone’s best interest if more existed than just sex, and it will be the fisherman’s job to help his fishy lady friend see what OTHER wonderful things you two have in common. If not, she’ll just find a way to wiggle off the hook again. Good sex is the bait, but that and that alone will never be enough.
Secondly, I’m using my personal (and painful) experience to hopefully teach other pisces girls a lesson. Are you reading this pisces girls? Don’t EVER let a man use his sexual allure to manipulate you into putting up with crap. You’re sexier, and worth so much more than that. You deserve the real deal. A good man worthy of going back to will want to show you that.
And if you think you’re the sexy beast worth going back to-PROVE IT (ahem, outside the bedroom.)
3. A Sincere Effort
So maybe you realized you screwed up and now she’s gone. In most instances, I’d recommend doing as the Pisces girl does-learn from the experience and move on. But if you think she’s worth the trying to win back, here are a few pointers:
It will help if you can be introspective enough to understand why she left. Sometimes, all it takes it one silly little move to scare off the pisces girl and it’s your job to determine what exactly that move was and why it didn’t work. If you can’t figure that out-call it quits. She wants someone who will be able to “get” her and if you’re grasping for straws, she might just assume the connection wasn’t that strong after all. (HINT: in many instances, you’ve done something to hurt those extremely sensitive feelings of hers, but she’ll rarely come straight out to tell you that.)
Once you’ve been able to see her perspective, you’ll have to suck it up and own up to your mistake. I know, we all have our pride and this isn’t always the easiest thing to do, but that’s exactly why you should do it-because she’ll be able to recognize and appreciate the effort that you made for her. The best way to approach this is with complete unfiltered sincerity and honesty. She’ll want to be able to see your point of view. She’ll also want to know without a doubt that you mean what you say. Start with an apology and then be willing to talk it out. For the totally clueless, “I’m sorry I hurt your feelings” is usually a pretty good starting point.
After that, she may not want to say anything right away, give her some time to think. Be in touch with her after a few days and gauge how warmly she responds to you. If she start to warm up, progress slowly.
If she doesn’t, sometimes a little gentle persistence is needed to make her happy again, but let’s not push it. A few attempts is okay, but if she ignores you completely, consider it a loss and prepare to move on. As one of my pals would put it, don’t get “cray-cray.”
I’ve seen both ends of the spectrum: those who don’t try hard enough and those who try TOO hard. I wish I were pointing out the obvious, but calling, messaging and emailing a gazillion times a day is taking it from gentle persistence to full-on nuisance. You want to find yourself somewhere in the middle. Be honest. Be sincere. Be real. If that doesn’t work, nothing else will.
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When a pisces woman leaves, she has a funny little way of leaving behind quite an impression, whether good, bad, or both. She can be many things, but for those who’ve had the experience of a real connection with her, forgettable is hardly one of them.
I sincerely hope this gives some perspective on the pisces woman and her famous disappearing act and wish you all happy fishing!
What’s been your experience? Why do you think a pisces woman disappears? What do you think brings a pisces woman back? Leave a comment, I’d love to hear from you!
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January 4th, 2012 at 3:59 pm
I am pisces and this article is so true. It was amazing reading about myself from someone I’ve never met!
January 7th, 2012 at 9:03 am
Hello IW,
I really appreciate you taking the time to leave a comment. I also find it amazing to meet people from all over the world who share the same experiences and feelings. It reminds me how we are truly, not alone! Best wishes, pisces friend.
January 29th, 2012 at 11:02 pm
This is true, i lost my pisces girl and gave it my best efforts to get her her back many times, and the only thing i’ve come up with is, when she leaves you, she LEAVES you. This was pretty helpful anyways. Thank you(:
February 9th, 2012 at 8:46 pm
Hello Sag,
Thank you for sharing your experience, you pretty much summed it up! I’m glad to help anyways, you’re welcome and best wishes for the future
March 20th, 2012 at 1:11 pm
I feel very relieved after reading this. I dated this Pisces Girl for a long tym, long tym bak. Almost my story , I did not believe in astronomy before this. Cheers!
March 22nd, 2012 at 10:27 am
I’m a pisces female and all that you have written is quite true. However, I could never be a part of 10%. When it’s over in my head it’s also over in my heart regardless of the pain. We give it all , love that is so deep that any kind of betrayal whether physically, emotional, or spiritual can’t be reversed. On to the next.
March 23rd, 2012 at 7:04 am
Hi Scorpio Guy,
I’m happy to hear that you could find relief in this! Truth be told, I never believed in astrology either, until I started noticing how people really do carry their inherit sign traits with them…whether they realize it or not. To me, it’s fascinating! Anyways, glad you found this a good read and cheers to you as well!
April 3rd, 2012 at 8:34 pm
Hello Gweneth,
Thank you so much for sharing your Pisces perspective! I’m happy to hear that when you swim away, you can swim away for good. I haven’t always been that way and it’s caused much hurt…usually more than necessary. I’ve had to learn the hard way, but hope maybe my experiences can encourage others to make smarter choices, like you have
Best wishes and thanks again for visiting!
April 21st, 2012 at 9:32 pm
Picses girl,
Hey there, sorry to bother you but i came across your page again and read the comment you left for me, thank you very much. But i was reminded how the girl i told you about has been acting up lately, all of a sudden i find her looking at me and she tries to argue with me every time we happen to come across each other. Any suggestions on what i can do to establish a peaceful friendship with her again? I’d really appreciate it
April 24th, 2012 at 6:53 pm
Hi Pisces Girl,
I have some questions about an amazing Pisces Girl that has captured my heart. If you would, please e-mail me so I can give you the details. Thank you in advance.
April 25th, 2012 at 9:10 am
Hi Pisces Girl,
Sorry that this post is so long but I tried to sum it all up.
I have a question about the Pisces Girl that I’ve been talking to for a month. We talked for a month over text and on the phone cause she lives two hours away.
We always head great conversation and she said I always make her laugh, smile, and feel special when we talk. We also regularly got into the habit of telling each other goodnight, sweet dreams, ttyl almost everynight.
She would send me a text the next day to apologize if she wasn’t able to talk to me the day before and eventually I miss you became a regular part of our conversations. Her nicknames for me are Doll, Sweetness, Love, Babe, and sometimes Baby.
We were finally able to get a first date scheduled and instead of taking her to a restaurant I cooked her one of her favorite meals served on a candlelit table (of her favorite scent) topped off with some rose petals. We talked about various things and both agreed we’d like to take it slow. Another suprised I had waiting for her was I covered my bed in rose petals (she said she’s always wanted a bed of roses) and placed in the middle of it was a poem I wrote for her telling her what things about her touches my heart. I waited for a while after dinner and told her to see what her suprise was. (it was too late to not let her see it cause I already had it all setup). After she saw it she had a big smile on her face and gave me a big hug and kiss (we shared a few smaller kisses before she saw her suprise so that wasn’t the first kiss) and told me “Thank You! That’s so sweet!” We kissed and held each other for a little while on the bed and decided to move back out to the living room so we could sit and talk some more and so the bedroom wouldn’t be the only focus. When we were sitting on the couch I had her put her legs across mine as she layed on the couch and I sat so that I could massage her legs and feet (she always mentioned when talked through text that her legs and feet ache a lot at night) After giving her a nice massage for about 30 minutes or so I pulled her in close and held jer and we began kissing more. One thing led to another and I asked “Would you like to lay in your bed of roses now?” We continued to kiss, hold and caress each other and then things got more physical and we endes up having sex. It was rrally amazing but at one point we kind of had to rush so she could have the car home by a certain time. Before we slept with each other she kept mentioning that she would like to show me something next time she comes and after we slept together and I was helping her gather her things before walking her out she mentioned she still wanted to show me her notebook of poems next time if I still wanted her to come back. I said “Of course I would like for you to come back!” After walking her to her car we exchanged a big hug and a kiss. She said she would call/text me soon. About 10 mins after she left she said she left her water at my house and apologized for having to leave in such a hurry. I said it was ok and I apologized for keeping her preoccupied which led to her leaving later then planned. She said it was ok and we both mentioned that we enjoyed spending time together. She also thanked me for everything that I did for her and the she loved it all. We talked for about 2 more hours after she got home(some about what we both liked when we she was here and some about what she was doing at home) and the conversation ended with Goodnight, sweet dreams, I hope you sleep well. And that we would miss each other until we spoke again. And now I haven’t heard from her since. She’s had her phone on Airplane Mode since Sunday and it’s now Wesnesday (I didn’t know until the day she came that she has two phones. An older one which she says is for business and for people that she doesn’t like get that number, and a new smartphone which is the one she said she used for friends and family) The way I know its in Airplane mode is because my phone gives me text notifications if the text successfully reaches the recipient and any text I sent after Saturday has no notification and if I try to call it goes straigjt to voicemail with no rings. So my question is “Is she just taking some time away for alone time and to recharge or did I scare her off for good and this is her way of letting me go?” Please help me so I know if I should let my heart release the pain or should I just consider things are still fine, she’s just recharging and she’ll contact me when ready?
April 25th, 2012 at 9:18 am
I apologize for the numerous posts, I am sending it from a phone and accidentally hot submit when trying to edit the text.
April 25th, 2012 at 5:00 pm
Oh wow. Sorry for the long drawn out story. Good news though. She lost her phone and the battery died and she finally found it. That’s why it was going to VM.
April 26th, 2012 at 6:36 am
Hello Sag,
I don’t really understand your whole situation…why she seems to be so angry with you-and why after you’ve broken up, you still have to see each other. But, if she is trying to be argumentative with you every time you see her, she might be really hurt-which leads to really angry- and is lashing out. She is definitely feeling unsettled. Pisces usually prefer to detach/swim away from the situation rather than stick around to pick scabs. So why is she? Have things between you two really come to a full conclusion?
I’m not entirely sure what you can do to establish a peaceful friendship. I think it might be better to ask, can a peaceful friendship even be established? Depending on what happened, maybe-maybe not. I’m sure you’ve already tried the whole “I’m so sorry for ________” bit to no avail. Maybe try a different approach and ask her why she is angry with you. Be genuine. Let her know that you REALLY want to know and can take it. See if she’ll open up to you that way. The truth is, if you two can’t have a civil conversation to discuss your differences-or at the very least, determine a conclusion you both can be okay with, I don’t really know how friendship can establish.
Hoping this helps some. Thanks for visiting again and wishing you all the best.
May 1st, 2012 at 6:46 am
Hello Libra of Love,
No worries, I enjoy getting comments, so you made my day
That is great news! Sounds like things worked out on their own, I hope your friendship with your pisces girl continues to grow into something lovely. Hope this finds you happy and well.
May 1st, 2012 at 8:53 pm
Hi Pisces Girl,
Thank you so much for making your website and giving all of the other signs a very honest look into the different aspects of a Pisces. Your articles are helping me learn so much about Pisces and my Pisces Girl. We had our 2nd date last weekend and everything went great as well. Thank you for your hopes of wellness and I hope that I can make the right choices to make this into an everlasting relationship with my Pisces Girl. I also hope that you and your Aries Man will live happily ever after. Glad I was able to make your day with my comments and I hope you continue to make other peoples days with your wonderful articles.
Thank You!
May 15th, 2012 at 6:54 am
Hi Libra of Love,
It is truly my pleasure. It makes me so happy to hear that I can help. Sending warm wishes your way.