THE PISCES GIRL

One of the more popular inquires related to the pisces girl is: “Will my pisces girl ever come back?” If you’ve made it here, I’m assuming you’ve sat front row during one of her magic acts. You know, the one where she pulls a rabbit out of her hat and mysteriously disappears? Yeah, she’s taken years to perfect that disappearing act of hers and I don’t mean to boast, but she is THE MASTER of it.

You see, the other sensitive water signs have an exterior means of protection: The crabby cancers have their shells and pinchers, the stingy scorpios have their venom-filled tails, but the fishies have got nothing. Nothing, that is, but their ability to swim and swim fast. Please understand, once she’s been baited and hooked, she’s screwed. So she better make sure she takes the right bait. Or if she doesn’t, then she’s gotta be clever enough to wiggle off the hook and disappear back into the ocean. No doubt life has taught her these tough lessons and she is anything but a poor student.

What all this means to you is that when she doesn’t feel like she is in safe company, she swims away. Coming from the highest, most surface level perspective, her reason for swimming away is as simple as that. Of course, it’s up to you to understand the entire depth of her reasoning. Each situation is unique to the individuals involved.

So you want to know if she’ll ever come back…and I really hate the be the bearer of bad news, but in 90% of circumstances, the answer is no, she won’t. For all of her indecisiveness, once she’s made the decision to leave, she usually sticks to it with stubborn resolve. After all, life is too short to waste on old experiences when newer ones are always waiting just around the corner.

For the remaining 10 percenters, there is a glimmer of hope, as there will always be exceptions to the rule. Here are a few situations in which she just might do an about-face and swim right back to you:

1. Genuine Love Exists

Yes, even when she is genuinely in love, she may still swim away. Maybe she wasn’t feeling loved back, maybe she got scared, maybe she lost faith that love was enough to keep it together. Whatever her reason, she left. But when real love is involved, it will always be difficult for her to stay away for good. When it’s real, her heart will always want to gravitate back to her beloved, possibly time and time again. She can’t help it, love is usually her happy place and it takes a lot to make her abandon it.

Of course, love has to be a two-way street. If her loved one doesn’t care to show her that he loves her back, it will be painful for her to leave, but she’ll stay away. But, if he shows her that he loves her just as much as she loves him, she can and will come back…and bestow that love stronger than ever. It just depends on the two persons involved, it just depends if mutual love is being exchanged.

2. The Sex Is Good

I’m a little embarrassed to admit this, but good sex is a weakness for the pisces girl. She associates sex with so much more than sex. She associates it with a connection of the most complete kind: physical, spiritual, mental and a soul union. Because of what this represents for her, she typically assumes that amazing sex equates to amazing compatibility. Realistically, we all know this isn’t the truth, but try telling the pisces girl that…She usually has to learn the hard way. Mainly by leaving and being reeled back over and over with the lure of passionate romance.

On a personal note, I once stayed in a relationship looooong past its expiration date for this very reason. It was not healthy and definitely not my proudest moment. But I did learn something from it, I learned how someone could use my strong desire for passion against me-as a means of manipulation. I learned that I’ll never let someone toy with me like that again. It was an important lesson to learn.

So why am I telling a whole bunch of strangers this? Well, for one, I’m letting the departed in on a little secret. If the sex was good between you two and you want her back, you can always try to appeal to her passionate side. But it would be in everyone’s best interest if more existed than just sex, and it will be the fisherman’s job to help his fishy lady friend see what OTHER wonderful things you two have in common. If not, she’ll just find a  way to wiggle off the hook again.  Good sex is the bait, but that and that alone will never be enough.

Secondly, I’m using my personal (and painful) experience to hopefully teach other pisces girls a lesson. Are you reading this pisces girls?  Don’t EVER let a man use his sexual allure to manipulate you into putting up with crap. You’re sexier, and worth so much more than that. You deserve the real deal. A good man worthy of going back to will want to show you that.

And if you think you’re the sexy beast worth going back to-PROVE IT (ahem, outside the bedroom.)

3. A Sincere Effort

So maybe you realized you screwed up and now she’s gone. In most instances, I’d recommend doing as the Pisces girl does-learn from the experience and move on. But if you think she’s worth the trying to win back, here are a few pointers:

It will help if you can be introspective enough to understand why she left. Sometimes, all it takes it one silly little move to scare off the pisces girl and it’s your job to determine what exactly that move was and why it didn’t work. If you can’t figure that out-call it quits. She wants someone who will be able to “get” her and if you’re grasping for straws, she might just assume the connection wasn’t that strong after all. (HINT: in many instances, you’ve done something to hurt those extremely sensitive feelings of hers, but she’ll rarely come straight out to tell you that.)

Once you’ve been able to see her perspective, you’ll have to suck it up and own up to your mistake. I know, we all have our pride and this isn’t always the easiest thing to do, but that’s exactly why you should do it-because she’ll be able to recognize and appreciate the effort that you made for her. The best way to approach this is with complete unfiltered sincerity and honesty.  She’ll want to be able to see your point of view. She’ll also want to know without a doubt that you mean what you say. Start with an apology and then be willing to talk it out. For the totally clueless, “I’m sorry I hurt your feelings” is usually a pretty good starting point.

After that, she may not want to say anything right away, give her some time to think. Be in touch with her after a few days and gauge how warmly she responds to you. If she start to warm up, progress slowly.

If she doesn’t, sometimes a little gentle persistence is needed to make her happy again, but let’s not push it. A few attempts is okay, but if she ignores you completely, consider it a loss and prepare to move on. As one of my pals would put it, don’t get “cray-cray.”

I’ve seen both ends of the spectrum: those who don’t try hard enough and those who try TOO hard. I wish I were pointing out the obvious, but calling, messaging and emailing a gazillion times a day is taking it from gentle persistence to full-on nuisance. You want to find yourself somewhere in the middle. Be honest. Be sincere. Be real. If that doesn’t work, nothing else will.

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When a pisces woman leaves, she has a funny little way of leaving behind quite an impression, whether good, bad, or both.  She can be many things, but for those who’ve had the experience of a real connection with her, forgettable is hardly one of them.

I sincerely hope this gives some perspective on the pisces woman and her famous disappearing act and wish you all happy fishing!

What’s been your experience? Why do you think a pisces woman disappears? What do you think brings a pisces woman back?  Leave a comment, I’d love to hear from you!

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